Understanding that you may get divorced even before your partner files for that divorce can be very helpful. The more time you have to plan ahead, gather paperwork, think about your divorce goals and consider your future, the better.
That’s why it’s important to know what signs and red flags to look for in advance. When you see them, you can begin to prepare, and that can help the case go smoothly for you. Here are a few common signs:
- You do not disagree, fight or argue. Yes, this sounds positive, but it doesn’t mean you’re happy. It just means you can’t talk about the issues in the relationship.
- You don’t feel like you’re both pulling your weight. Maybe you spend all of your time cleaning, watching the kids, going to work and doing home repairs, all while your partner watches TV.
- Your partner is dealing with an addiction. The most common examples are drugs and alcohol, but things like gambling could also factor in.
- Your conflicts happen in public. Maybe your spouse insults you in front of your friends or starts arguments where everyone can hear, rather than bringing things up in private.
- You are nothing more than roommates. You don’t talk, go on dates, or enjoy each other’s company. You sleep in separate beds or separate rooms. This is clearly no longer a romantic relationship.
- Your friends are worried. They try to tell you, as nicely as they can, that it seems like something is wrong with your relationship.
If you spot these red flags and you know divorce is coming, don’t hesitate to look into your options. The key to protecting your interests in a divorce is to stay alert and get informed.